Health/Mind & Body
I’ve had this interview with Dr. Carmen Harra in my “back pocket” for a while now. She is an interesting and accomplished woman–a renowned psychologist, metaphysical intuitive, licensed hypnotherapist, astrologist, numerologist, singer/songwriter, and radio personality. We ended up jumping from topic to topic–addictions, negative emotions, diet, nutrition & health, recipes, alternative medicine, politics, spirituality, future predictions, unconditional love–and before I knew it, we had close to an hour of recording. Some of her predictions were mind-blowing. Wait ’til you hear who she predicts to win the presidential 2008 election! It will be interesting to look back in November and see if she’s right!My intent was to split this into two shows with a separate book excerpt, but as is often the case with my life, it got crazy-busy. I couldn’t find the time to do the appropriate editing before leaving on my mission trip to Africa, so I’ve gone ahead and posted the interview in its entirety. You are welcome to listen to it in small chunks if that helps, but I hope it tides you over until my return.Dr. Harra and I come from different backgrounds and I’ve had little exposure to some of the spiritual beliefs she embraces. That being said, I respect and appreciate her loving spirit. See her website www.CarmenHarra.com for her detailed bio.
A little side story for you:
I initially met Dr. Carmen Harra on a talk show and asked her what her thoughts were about my then career path and the other Internet talk show I participate in, TheDivaCast. I’ve been a freelance writer, but at that particular time, I was working as a Patient Liaison and hadn’t mentioned my writing experience. Dr. Carmen asked me if I had written a book. Though I had started three separate novels, I was embarrassed to admit I hadn’t finished one. She told me she saw me behind a microphone promoting a book. I left her thinking, “Geese, I better get cracking on one of these books, so I can get out on my book tour!” Ha. This was back in October 2007 before I ever had an inkling of starting this author interview talk show, Words To Mouth.
A few months later, Tom Royce, a friend and mentor of mine, suggested I merge my writing and recording experience to create an author interview blog & talk show and I thought, “Why not?” It wasn’t until another friend, Marilyn Haas of arts & expressions magazine, came up with my logo and I looked at it for the first time that I remembered the words of Dr. Carmen Harra ~ GOOSE BUMPS. Take a peek at that logo in the upper right-hand side of my website. Dr. Carmen Harra knew on some level about Words to Mouth before I ever dreamed about it…To me, no matter your belief stystem, this is FASCINATING stuff!
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Youth-on-youth mistreatment is getting younger, meaner, harder for adults to identify, and more acceptable.
U.S. Bullying Stats According to Safe School Ambassadors:
- 25,000 secondary school students are targets of attacks or robberies.
- Over 1,600 teachers are threatened each day and 300 are assaulted by students
- 160,000 students stay home from school, because they are afraid of what someone will say or do to them
- 22% of 4th-8th graders report academic problems due to bullying
PLP = Co-authors: Rick Phillips, M.ED.; John Linney, M.A.; Chris Pack, B.S.E.
Carrie: What is Safe School Ambassadors (SSA)?
PLP: Safe School Ambassadors is a research-based and field-tested program that equips and empowers diverse and influential students to prevent acts of bullying and violence and change the social norms of their school culture.
Carrie: What is the ‘Inside-Out’ Approach and how does it differ from the ‘Outside-In’ Approach?
PLP: The ‘Inside-Out’ Approach improves safety by improving school climate; The ‘Inside-Out Approach is student-centered, and focuses on building relationships and impacting social norms. Whereas, the Outside-In Approach improves safety by improving physical safety; The ‘Outside-In’ Approach is adult-driven, with a focus on tightened security, and the enforcement of more rules and policies.
Carrie: What approach are schools using today?
PLP: The common elements of most school safety efforts constitute an Outside-In approach, which focuses heavily on security, is adult-driven, and based on rules and policies. While these elements help to prevent and stop more overt forms of cruelty and violence, by themselves, they don’t achieve the desired results of making schools emotionally and physically safe.
Carrie: What’s missing?
Dr. Tina Tessina, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is a licensed psychotherapist in Southern California. “Dr. Romance,” as she’s known, has 30 years counseling experience, both individuals and couples, and has published 13 books in 16 languages, including her latest release, Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media Jan 2008) and the forthcoming The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart. (Adams Media, June 2008).
Carrie: What inspired you to write Money, Sex, and Kids?
Tina: In my work with couples, I see a lot of problems created by a habit of fighting, and I’ve developed a lot of strategies to change those old bad habits and give couples something new to do that works better.
Carrie: What is the primary message you’d like your readers to take away from this book?
Tina: You can have a loving partnership, full of sweetness and effective planning and decision making. It’s not hard to create.
Carrie: Tell us about your writing process.
Tina: I essentially re-create the counseling process I use with couples, including case histories, dialog and exercises just as I use them in successful counseling.
Carrie: The process of writing a book is not easy, to say the least. What motivated you to keep going, especially in those times when it was far from convenient to write?
Tina: Well, this is my 12th book, so I’ve got the process down by now, and it’s help I really want to make available to couples.
Carrie: Who are your favorite authors and who influenced your writing? Besides your own, of course, which authors and/or books do you recommend to readers? Why?
Tina: I love Anne Lamott’s honesty and clarity. I have been influenced by Carl Rogers, Robert Bly, Albert Ellis, Eric Berne, James Hillman, Thomas Szasz, Ken Wilbur, Marsha Sinetar, Virginia Satir and others. I studied Gestalt therapy, Transactional Analysis Rational Emotive Therapy and many other modes. The book which best captures my modality is Ken Wilbur’s Integral Therapy. I also read a lot of research.
Carrie: Can you offer a glimpse into your “real life” and share with us a bit of your personal life—what’s important to you (i.e., hobbies, passions, causes, family)?
The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting – What to Avoid to Help Your Children Thrive After Divorce, Carolyn Ellis
Carolyn B. Ellis is the author of The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting: What to Avoid to Help Your Children Thrive After Divorce. I had the opportunity to interview her both in this post and in an audio interview here. Enjoy!
Carrie: Why did you decide to start the Thrive After Divorce movement?
Carolyn: My mission to help other separated and divorced individuals thrive after divorce came out of my own divorce journey. When I separated after a 20-year relationship, I was scared, overwhelmed and uncertain as to what my life could look like as a divorced woman with three young children. I felt ashamed that one of the most critical relationships in my life failed, and I knew I didn’t want my children to get caught in any conflict between their parents.
Most of the people I knew who’d been divorced were still angry and bitter years later, and I didn’t want to end up like that. I knew that I wanted to find a way other than simply “getting through” my divorce and surviving my emotional wounds. I wanted to see how I could learn and grow, and possibly even turn this into a positive experience.
So I started to ask myself better questions. Instead of asking “Why me?” I started to ask myself “What can I learn here?” Instead of assuming one can only survive a divorce, I became passionate about finding out how one can thrive after divorce, and it’s from that quest this movement was born.
Carrie: How did you thrive after your divorce?
Carolyn: The first thing I did was to make a decision. I vowed that I would do whatever it took to heal my heart so that I could be the best mother I could possibly be for my children. I committed to keeping my children’s best interests first and foremost in all of my decisions and actions. The second thing I did was to stay open to learning. After reading “Spiritual Divorce” by New York Times best-selling author Debbie Ford, I started training with her as a master integrative coach and then as a spiritual divorce coach.
The third thing I did was to learn to love and trust myself. This led me to explore many new experiences and paths that I never thought would be possible for me, such as writing a book or helping to train hundreds of people around the world to become integrative coaches. I learned to listen and trust my own intuition, rather than looking to others to validate my decisions or feelings.