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Out of the Mouths of Babes
Parenting from a Child’s Perspective
Out of the Mouths of Babes offers a unique parenting approach tailored to working with the personalities of individual children, ultimately educating parents on how to observe and appreciate every experience through the eyes of their child. Eybergen’s book highlights eight main areas:
Bedtime and Sleeping through the Night
Sibling Rivalry and Conflict Resolution
Through each chapter, Eybergen uses her background as a nurse as well as a parent, and shares stories of her own misadventures and triumphs. Eybergen cleverly uses humorous quotations from children and situations of her own that parallel her children’s experiences to help parents develop an understanding from their child’s perspective. Once parents have this understanding, they are able to provide more effective parenting techniques for any behavioral challenge.
Out of the Mouths of Babes ~ Parenting from a Child’s Perspective (Chapter 7, Discipline) Excerpt:
On Christmas Eve day, when our two older children were six and four years of age, I ran upstairs to answer the door, leaving the two of them alone in the basement. It was my best friend, dropping off some gifts. About five minutes after letting her into the house, we heard the sound of breaking glass coming from downstairs. I quickly responded to the noise and found my two boys standing near the TV entertainment unit with golf clubs in their hands. A golf ball had gone through the glass of the cabinet, and it had shattered beneath their feet. Thinking they were in big trouble, they instantly began blaming each other for what had happened, and it was obvious that I was not going to get to the truth of the matter. Frazzled, I couldn’t think fast enough to do anything, except remove the boys from harm’s way and tell them I would need time to think about what I was going to do. They retreated to their rooms, indubitably shaking in their boots, and I continued to visit with my friend.
Chat with Dyan and Carrie
For many parents, following text book strategies for childrearing can often lead to frustration or feelings of failure. Bringing over a decade of experience handling behavioral problems in kids—as well as raising her own three boys—pediatric psychiatric nurse, Dyan Eybergen, provides the roadmap to parenting children according to their unique personality in her book, Out of the Mouths of Babes. Based on attachment theory, Eybergen shows parents how to trust their intuition and eliminate the one-size-fits-all approach to parenting, providing clarity and humor to the journey of parenting.
Carrie: What inspired you to write Out of the Mouths of Babes?
Dyan: I worked as a child and adolescent psychiatric nurse for more than eight years–there wasn’t a behavioral situation that I wasn’t trained to handle. When I began having my own children I thought I was more than adequately prepared for motherhood. I learned very quickly that all my education and clinical experience taught me nothing about being a mother and the emotional ties that bind. Children are unique and cannot be parented from a one-size-fits-all paradigm.
Carrie: Tell us a bit about Out of the Mouths of Babes.
Dyan: Out of the Mouths of Babes is a collection of stories and anecdotes based on the lives of my three boys and the experiences my husband and I have had raising them. It is a humorous and candid look at parenting from the child’s perspective. I do not promise any quick fix solutions to any parenting dilemma; Out of the Mouths of Babes offers guidance to parents who may feel they have been undermined somehow by contemporary approaches and are wanting to relate to their children in a more instinctive way. It encourages parents to work within the context of relationship and parent their children in a way that compliments their individual child’s needs and personality.
I Brake for Meltdowns: How to Handle the Most Exasperating Behavior of Your 2-to 5-Year-Old, Michelle Nicholasen, (Barbara O’Neal, co-author) Audio Interview
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I was referred to Michelle Nicholasen from Erin of Manic Mommies. Initially, Erin had asked me to read and review I Brake for Meltdowns: How to Handle the Most Exasperating Behavior of Your 2–to 5–Year-Old and once I started reading, I realized the incredible resource the book is for parents of young children. So, I decided to ask Michelle to be a guest on the show ~ Lucky for you, she agreed.
I Brake for Meltdowns is like the What to Expect When You’re Expecting for the toddler years, because you can look up specific behavior and find strategies and suggestions for how to handle them–practical advice you can use right in those moments when your kids are driving you CRAZY.
Michelle’s 75–year old co-author, Barbara O’Neal, has had decades of experience tending to children as a Pre-school Executive Director ~ Barbara’s wisdom inspired Michelle to chronicle her countless parenting suggestions and they collaborated to write I Brake for Meltdowns—a reference guide for 2–5 year olds, organized by behavior rather than the “usual” developmental milestones.
We chat about:
- *Different kids = different personalities = different parenting styles/strategies
- *Developing a Boundary Hierarchy
- *Kids with poop problems? “Glycolax to the rescue“
The book also covers:
- *Social graces (or lack thereof)
- *Sleep Issues
- *Eating (or refusing to)
- *Potty Training Woes