All Posts Tagged With: "relationship"
Are you a big fan of Sue Monk Kidd like me?
When I started Words To Mouth, one of my earliest blog posts talked about the excitement of one of my favorite authors/books coming to the big screen—Sue Monk Kidd’s THE SECRET LIFE OF BEES. Well, now that same author and her daughter, Anna Kidd Taylor, are coming to Words To Mouth. Sue and Anna, wrote a mother-daugher memoir called TRAVELING WITH POMEGRANATES and have agreed to take a few moments out of their busy book tour to chat with me on SEPTEMBER 10th. I’m beyond thrilled ~ what an honor!
Synopsis of CHANGE OF HEART from Jodi’s website:
When Charlotte and Sean O’Keefe’s daughter, Willow, is born with severe osteogenesis imperfecta, they are devastated – she will suffer hundreds of broken bones as she grows, a lifetime of pain. As the family struggles to make ends meet to cover Willow’s medical expenses, Charlotte thinks she has found an answer. If she files a wrongful birth lawsuit against her ob/gyn for not telling her in advance that her child would be born severely disabled, the monetary payouts might ensure a lifetime of care for Willow. But it means that Charlotte has to get up in a court of law and say in public that she would have terminated the pregnancy if she’d known about the disability in advance – words that her husband can’t abide, that Willow will hear, and that Charlotte cannot reconcile. And the ob/gyn she’s suing isn’t just her physician – it’s her best friend.
HANDLE WITH CARE explores the knotty tangle of medical ethics and personal morality. When faced with the reality of a fetus who will be disabled, at which point should an OB counsel termination? Should a parent have the right to make that choice? How disabled is TOO disabled? And as a parent, how far would you go to take care of someone you love? Would you alienate the rest of your family? Would you be willing to lie to your friends, to your spouse, to a court? And perhaps most difficult of all – would you admit to yourself that you might not actually be lying?
Part of a Conversation with Jodi Picoult from Jodi’s website:
The characters in your books are always layered and complex, as are the issues that plague them. How do you create a character like Charlotte that readers can love and hate at the same time?
Well, for me, it’s a lot harder to create a flat character who’s either all villain or all hero. Most of us are a combination, aren’t we? Charlotte’s the best kind of character – one who is doing something that looks unpalatable, but for all the right reasons. In this way she reminds me a bit of Nina Frost from PERFECT MATCH. You want to hate her – but can you really say that if it were you, you wouldn’t at least think about doing the same thing she does? Charlotte’s tragic flaw, in my opinion, is that she is so single-minded in her pursuit of making Willow’s life easier that she neglects the rest of her support system – her friends, and her family.
How did you choose the recipes that appear throughout the book? Do you believe in the significance they hold for Charlotte? Are you a baker yourself?
Before I got married, I was lucky enough to have a roommate who became one of my best friends. Now, Katie works at the Smithsonian organizing special events – but prior to that, she went to culinary school. When I knew that I wanted Charlotte to be a baker, I turned to her and asked for help. Charlotte, as a baker, would believe that the sum of the ingredients is so much more than its parts – this is true for her when it comes to Willow, too, who is so much more than a litany of moments where she broke a bone or had a surgery or was sidelined to recuperate. I do bake (too much, if you ask my husband, who is constantly cursing me for a pan of brownies cooling on the stove that he is compelled to eat) – and often I have been struck by the metaphorical language of baking. I wanted Charlotte’s cookbook to be a collection of these terms, with accompanying recipes. So one day I emailed Katie a list – words like weeping, hardball, blind baking – and asked her to create recipes that might involve each term. I have to admit, that rarely is my fact checking process so delicious…I got to bake, and road test, every recipe in the book.
During the course of the trial, Amelia develops an eating disorder and starts cutting herself. Did you see this as the natural progression for her character? Were these types of behavior in siblings of disabled children something you found to be common while conducting your research?
While doing research with a child psychiatrist about adolescent bulimics I learned that cutting is very common for those girls. Apparently, bulimia involves a lot of self-hatred…and cutting figures into that. Siblings of disabled children aren’t always like Amelia, thank goodness – I’d hope that their families do a better job of including them than the O’Keefes do. For Amelia, having a sibling with a disability is compounded by the fact that she feels she’s failed her sister (in Disneyworld, for example) and that there are very high stakes in that household for being a child who isn’t perfect (which would be Amelia’s interpretation of her mother’s lawsuit).
You’ve said before that you know how a book will end before you write the first word. Was this also true for Handle with Care? Do you ever change your mind about an ending as you get deeper into the story?
I do know the ending before I write a single word, and I did here too. I will tell you that I think Handle With Care is the saddest book I’ve written – and coming from me, that’s pretty dire! I never wavered on the ending, however, because there’s a bit of a morality lesson in there as well – it’s a real “Be careful what you wish for” moment.
- For More Click HERE to visit Jodi’s website
To Enter to Win a Free copy of HANDLE WITH CARE:
Subscribe to the Words To Mouth e-newsletter (how winners announced)
Leave a Comment Below: Share something about why you love Jodi Picoult’s books, what about this post piqued your interest in HANDLE WITH CARE, or something about yourself that relates to the subject of HANDLE WITH CARE.
Call 206-309-7318 and leave a voice mail message I can play on-air
If you listen to the podcast, please subscribe and leave me a review on iTunes (Be Nice!! ;-))
U.S. & Canada residents only; No P.O. Boxes, please
Deadline: July 15th, 2009 ~ Midnight, EDT
MY SISTER’S KEEPER movie trailer:
About the Book (from Laura’s website)
Gwyn Huntington knows how to throw a party. And Hunt Hall, her postcard-perfect Victorian home in Montauk at the easternmost tip of Long Island, is no stranger to celebrations. But on the morning of her thirty-fifth wedding anniversary, she’s putting finishing touches on the last party she’ll host there. The last time she’ll see Hunt Hall abuzz with caterers and bartenders. The last time she’ll preside over a gathering of beautiful friends chatting in candlelight. The last time she’ll fully play the role of Mrs. Thomas Huntington. Divorce parties have become commonplace, if not fashionable, in Montauk. But Gwyn is determined that hers will be different.Just over one hundred miles away on the same morning, Maggie Mackenzie sits on the floor of her Brooklyn apartment attempting to organize her new life. A former travel writer, she’s fallen in love with a wonderful man, gotten engaged, and is planning to start a business with him. Today is also the day she’ll meet her fiancé’s parents for the first time. She’s feeling particularly uneasy about the occasion surrounding her first meeting with Nate’s family. The Divorce Party takes us into the lives of these two women at opposite ends of marriage. For all the differences between them—distance, privilege, age—Gwyn and Maggie have one thing in common: Each has found herself at a crossroads. Gwyn has been preparing for this day, the last predictable day before an uncertain future. Even though she’s had time to come to terms with her divorce, she still can’t quite believe her marriage is over. How can she move on when her marriage has defined who she is for the last thirty-five years? And for Maggie, the emotionally charged trip to Montauk shakes the foundation of her relationship with Nate and dredges up feelings she has spent her life trying to avoid. In the end, Gwyn and Maggie face the same questions: How hard should you work to stay with the person you love? And when is it time to let go?
Carrie: Why did you write The Divorce Party?
Laura: After my first novel, London Is the Best City in America, came out, readers began writing to me, and telling me about their relationships. I heard from so many interesting people: a woman celebrating her 45th wedding anniversary, a man trying to figure out whether he did the right thing breaking off an engagement. The stories ran the gamut. And they inspired to take a look at what makes a relationship last over the course of the lifetime: is there one secret ingredient? Is it many small things? Is it a whole lot of luck? These questions formed the basis of The Divorce Party.
Carrie: Tell us a bit about The Divorce Party?
365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy, by Charla Muller “Sex. Every day. For an entire year.” (audio author interview)
About the Book (From Charla’s website):
365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy is a funny and intimate look into turning 40, being married and wondering if there is more to marriage than laundry, babysitters and negotiating the DVR. It started when Charla’s husband was about to celebrate four decades on this planet, and she offered to give him something memorable – something that only she could give.She offered him sex every day for a year.This book documents that year. It’s not the behind-the-scene details of their sex life (which, really, would not be all that interesting), but rather a modest, G-rated story about how a year of daily intimacy transformed a marriage. About how the “stuff” everyone brings to a marriage can bear down on the relationship, intimacy and the desire to connect.This endeavor did not start as a book idea, but an honest attempt to improve a relationship. From “Dr. Phil” to The New York Times, the topic of marriage and intimacy is an incredibly relevant issue, it seems. Certainly Charla is no expert, but she’s been amazed at how her experience has resonated with family and friends who know about this year of intimacy. Everyone seems to have a comment, an anecdote or a perspective about intimacy and marriage…everybody.
Just a quick follow-up on my interview with Lily Koppel, author of The Red Leather Diary; Reclaiming a Life Through the Pages of a Lost Journal. My curiosity got the best of me and I just had to ask Lily about the time Florence went back to Europe in her forties.
As a forty-something woman, my mind sometimes gets to wondering, “Hmmm, I wonder what ever happened to him?” Well, evidently, I’m not the only one…
**Scroll down and click gray button to listen to interview
As you may be aware, I originally posted a review on He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not (see earlier post) and Trish and I went back-and-forth a bit in conversation on our blogs. Some of you provided some great listener/viewer comments, so I went ahead and asked Trish to be on the show.
Initially, this interview started out as a Quick & Wordy, but ended up not-so-quick.
I am one to go-with-the-flow and that’s what I’ve done here. I didn’t want to cut our conversation short, just because I was trying to be…well, short. So, if it ended up being a bit longer than you would have preferred for a Quick & Wordy, my apologies…I’m a firm believer in letting things take us where they may.
Trish was so willing to open up and share herself with us and I wanted to give her ample opportunity. I realize I shared my spiritual beliefs and I hope that is okay and not a turn-off for you…just simply that, my beliefs, without judgments on anyone else’s beliefs. Regardless, I enjoyed my conversation with Trish and getting to know her and I hope you will as well.
Feel free to post or email comments for Trish and I’ll make sure she gets them ~ Let’s start a conversation!
To win a FREE copy of Trish’s He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not, leave a comment below or call 206-309-7318 and leave a voice mail I can play on-air. If I don’t already have your mailing address, send it to me at Carrie@WordsToMouth.com.
Click the arrow below to listen or subscribe on iTunes to get Words To Mouth delivered to your computer for free–so you can listen wherever and whenever you want.
Thanks to Natali Brown for You Gotta Believe from the Podsafe Music Network.
Take care…until next time.
Just a real quick post to let you know I’ll be recording a show with Dr. Romance, Dr. Tina Tessina, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. on Monday, June 30th.
Dr. Romance is a licensed psychotherapist with 30 years counseling experience, both individuals and couples. She’s published 13 books in 16 languages, including her latest releases, Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage and The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart.
So…just post your questions below, send me an email at Carrie@WordsToMouth.com, or call (206) 309–7318 and leave a voice mail message I can play on air and we’ll get Dr. Romance’s opinion.
Dr. Tina Tessina, Ph.D., L.M.F.T. is a licensed psychotherapist in Southern California. “Dr. Romance,” as she’s known, has 30 years counseling experience, both individuals and couples, and has published 13 books in 16 languages, including her latest release, Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media Jan 2008) and the forthcoming The Commuter Marriage: Keep Your Relationship Close While You’re Far Apart. (Adams Media, June 2008).
Carrie: What inspired you to write Money, Sex, and Kids?
Tina: In my work with couples, I see a lot of problems created by a habit of fighting, and I’ve developed a lot of strategies to change those old bad habits and give couples something new to do that works better.
Carrie: What is the primary message you’d like your readers to take away from this book?
Tina: You can have a loving partnership, full of sweetness and effective planning and decision making. It’s not hard to create.
Carrie: Tell us about your writing process.
Tina: I essentially re-create the counseling process I use with couples, including case histories, dialog and exercises just as I use them in successful counseling.
Carrie: The process of writing a book is not easy, to say the least. What motivated you to keep going, especially in those times when it was far from convenient to write?
Tina: Well, this is my 12th book, so I’ve got the process down by now, and it’s help I really want to make available to couples.
Carrie: Who are your favorite authors and who influenced your writing? Besides your own, of course, which authors and/or books do you recommend to readers? Why?
Tina: I love Anne Lamott’s honesty and clarity. I have been influenced by Carl Rogers, Robert Bly, Albert Ellis, Eric Berne, James Hillman, Thomas Szasz, Ken Wilbur, Marsha Sinetar, Virginia Satir and others. I studied Gestalt therapy, Transactional Analysis Rational Emotive Therapy and many other modes. The book which best captures my modality is Ken Wilbur’s Integral Therapy. I also read a lot of research.
Carrie: Can you offer a glimpse into your “real life” and share with us a bit of your personal life—what’s important to you (i.e., hobbies, passions, causes, family)?